I might be wrong but I think I am an honorable woman. For me it is important for my own sake that I am. But in many ways in our culture I don't feel like that trait is particularly admired. Many men seem more interested in women who constantly get themselves into financial or personal messes than in women that can keep themselves relatively together. So what does that "teach" women??
Of course my working theory is that many men are becoming more weak themselves and they are attracted to weak women who then can make them feel better about themselves. Just a thought...
I think the reason I talk about strong bunny and strong puppy is that there is more than one way to be brave. It's true that a man is revealing himself as weak if he needs to be needed by a weak woman. OTOH, it seems reasonable to me that a man might want to be with a woman who is both trusting and strong, not trusting just because she is strong. If a dark alley must be traversed, sometimes a man might want to be with a woman who carries her own sword but sometimes he might want to be with a woman who takes his hand and says "I trust you.". The woman who will only ever enter the own alley with her own sword in hand is IMO less brave than the one who can do both. The woman who always has to have her own sword is more concerned with earning the respect of men than engendering (literally!)their affection.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
