Hell, I don't know why women don't honor contracts.

Maybe add some or most women but certainly not ALL. I know that I honor contracts and believe strongly in honoring contracts. The whole Ellen Degeneres thing bothered me because of her wish to pretty much ignore the fact that she had signed a contract. If she didn't like the contract's terms, then she shouldn't have signed the contract.

But there are men that ignore contracts also, aren't there? Is the "difference" that women won't honor a contract for an emotional reason and men won't honor a contract for a financial or egotistical reason??

Anyway...

I'm talking about keeping your word; doing what you say you're going to do. If a guy tells me he's going to do something, I'm confident he'll do it. If a single woman who's interested in me (doesn't have to be romantic interest) tells me she's going to do something, I'm confident she'll do it. If a married woman tells me she's going to do something, I'm fairly confident she'll do it. If a single woman tells me she's going to do something...it's a crapshoot. Near as I can tell, the fact that she told me she'd do it has no bearing on whether or not it actually gets done. If she feels like doing it when the time rolls around, she'll do it, otherwise, forget it.

I would think that there are plenty of women that have known men who are the same way. Considering the fact that there are, unfortunately, plenty of us women whose husband's have cheated on us or left us obviously there are men that don't honor their contracts and are dishonest.

And while I'm at it, I'm not sure that Corri's theory on women really holds up across all cultures so that in itself makes it seem more about cultural or learned behavior rather than about innate gender differences. As far as I can remember I thought there were/are cultures that put women's honor above other traits.

I might be wrong but I think I am an honorable woman. For me it is important for my own sake that I am. But in many ways in our culture I don't feel like that trait is particularly admired. Many men seem more interested in women who constantly get themselves into financial or personal messes than in women that can keep themselves relatively together. So what does that "teach" women??

Of course my working theory is that many men are becoming more weak themselves and they are attracted to weak women who then can make them feel better about themselves. Just a thought...

Fortunately I don't really care what "most" men want, I'm interested in what I want and finding a man who wants the same. And I've found him \:\) Growing up with many strong women and men, I had a chance to see men that admired and loved the strength of their women. The men definitely were not "afraid" of their women and also never seemed to have a need to put down their women. Which is something I have seen much more of recently in relationships. Men and women that put their spouses down in front of others. Why would married couples do this??



But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus