I believe the WAS feels as if D will be relief...but in actuality it may not be. I think they just don't want the pressure of a committed R so they can clear their minds enough to think things through. Have you gotten the 'Let's get a D so we can be friends' speech yet??? Yeah....right.
I don't know if D is a relief or not for me, but I now know that D will not solve MY problem...meaning 'what was it that I did/did not do that contributed to the breakdown of my M'. Know what I mean? Even if H and I get the D, the root causes will still be there and will probably carry on to the next R.
This is why what NT and Anned have said is so important. You have to work on YOU...for YOU. Any future R's (if you so choose to have any) could still have the same issues as your current one if something doesn't change....that something is You....Me...Us. You will be a happier person, a more confident person, the person your H fell in love with all those years ago. That is person he will want to come back to.
