When my W left me, I went straight for the guilt and pressure tactics. I could see how much it was pushing her away. But I couldn't stop. I couldn't understand how she could leave the R, considering all the time and family invested. To be honest, even though she is back, I still don't think I will understand.

What I did learn, after I backed off, was how much I admired her for having the "courage" to leave. I don't think I would ever have the heart to leave, even if I was unhappy. I've never told her this, and I don't think I ever will.

Punk is right. The anger and pressure is inevitable. We are all guilty of doing it. I honestly don't think it can be prevented. What matters is how long it takes us to back off. We all do it in our own time. This knowledge that Punk is passing on will hopefully help posters here to get there quicker. Understanding will help the process.

God Bless.

PoohBear

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.