It's possible that it wasn't a screw up, you know.
You've been doing the same thing for months.
As the d nears, he has been reaching out.
Maybe, just maybe, he was looking for encouragement that he could stop this train?
In my sitch my H didn't really believe I loved him enough to fight for us until I did. Which one of you was typically the pursuer in the relationship? Sometimes ya gotta shake things up.
