You won't get it exactly right and it is just confusing when you get new bits of info and you try and make it fit into 'your picture of what's going on' and you get further and further away from being realistic.
The safest thing to do is love your d - don't prod her for any information about daddy. If she volunteers it, that's one thing but don't probe!! I've got a 6 year old girl and I know it's hard and your d probably is getting confused, but you know what? It's not your fault!!!
Karma's a beyatch. It'll bite him sometime...maybe not as soon as you would like..but it will bite him sometime.
Take it from me, I've been exactly where you are now. It sucks big time but you can't change what your h is doing. Alien spew, ducks back, etc.
DON'T ASK D FOR DETAILS - it's damaging, and you are playing the drama game. The only purpose it serves is to upset you and probably confuse d as to why you have gotten upset. You don't want your d to think that it is her words/actions that have upset you do you? Be calm...listen to what she has to say, validate if you need to but don't snoop.
