Living together as semi-polite strangers

[mishka422]

MMF - Thanks for the grounding. I needed it! I've got to get a grip, seriously. I'm going to continue to just be pleasant and not rock the boat.

I am going to do something to protect myself legally in case he doesn't decide to put the D on hold. A friend of my cousin's is a bounty hunter and PI. He is going to follow my H some and see if he can catch him with her and get pictures. In GA adultery is a major consideration in awarding alimony, custody, and increasing child support over the formula. I am 99% positive that custody is going to be a non-issue because my husband is not much for caregiving. Also, our son is 13 and at that age the courts will allow him to make his decision as to who he wants to live with. Being that his dad would be living with OW in a one bedroom apartment in the slums I know my son wouldn't want to be there.....EVER! We live in a beautiful community where he has friends, family members, the best schools in the state, and a house...with his own room.....with a yard and his dog. He's not going to leave that so I have no worries.

My H is really a very sick man. There's nothing AT ALL I can do for him except pray and that is what I will continue to do. I really am working my way back to no expectations other than expecting him to just sit here and wait for this 60 days to be up so the D will be final. He's going to be surprised when this goes MUCH longer and he's still not allowed to be seen in public with OW! HA! I know, sounds vindictive of me but I can't help it. I'm not going to make any of this throwing me and our family in the trash easy for him.