I WON'T live in a M like that anymore. It's almost as if our spouses can sense when we are BS-ing. So know yourself first I guess.

They certainly do and knowing yourself is the most important part. I sometimes wonder if we get so mad and frustrated because we are mad and frustrated with ourselves for not having the conviction to sh!t or get off the pot.

If for some reason the sex with H starts to downslide, I will keep your second point in mind.

Keep it in mind all the time LFL - don't wait for things to go bad again. It is only by having that conviction to the front of your mind all the time and no BS that H will continue to keep it up (so to speak!)

Fran

if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs
Erica Jong