you can't go off a 6 year olds words....I've got one...i know.
Sometimes they are convinced that what they said is right but they haven't a different concept of timeframes that might be leading you off on a wild goose chase.
I don't know what to suggest.
In the absence of DB'ing I would be inclined to mention calmly to h that "d6 told me '..blah blah blah'. What does she mean? I am fearful that you have been seeing OW - have you?"
ag...I really don't know...
will go back and read the rest of your post now...only read the first little bit.