Help, it seems my 35 year old wife is in MLC #11

[Punktmann]

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I see their R as doomed. A real R is not an R that is kept secret. I real R is brought to family functions for example If this was a real R where was OW at Ws grandmothers funeral? This is an A.

I agree with you on this very much. If it has to kept under wraps to live, it can't live very long.

Here is another odd thing, OW lives has a place of her own but she lives with W most of the time as far as I can tell. I believe this is so that OW can drive W and the kids around.

I didn't know that about her own place. Just my humble opinion, but that seems to indicate to me that OW still sees this as temporary. I like that. Also, I still like the fact that OW has the pressure of the commute for your W. That just can't be good for an R that the OW is not comitted enough to try to move in together with.



That alternative can't lead anywhere good.

You're right about that, I have trouble keeping my tongue in check about the OM just with my W. Added stress is NOT to be desired. I just don't like the OP thing, and I can't respect that, much less hiding it or them, although I realize that it's much less confrontational. Less confrontational is good.

Besides, W hasn't even admitted to me that she is in an R. She tries very very hard to keep that from me.

Why do you think she tries so hard to hide it? Esp when things happen like your son calling out "goodbye Sue."

That's interesting.

We had 3 days of 40-50 degree weather here, and it made a real mess of the snow, but winter is back now, and it is COLD. Esp in the spare room where I live. At least the mud will solidify.