Sounds to me like she's setting it up so this is yet another example of how your marital problems are all your -- and the Army's -- fault, and not a genuine desire for you to be there.
Choc,
She sent the message because I felt as though W would not send one on her own so I told her mom to "if she felt as though I needed it". I have to be honest, I kind of forced the hand on this one...probably backsliding. I was really hoping the message would come across stronger than it did. It backfired. I was hoping that I could come home on my white shining horse, save the day and my marriage would be fine. I realize this now.
Instead I have added insult to an already injured sitch. What makes it worse is that last night I was in tired and in the process of chewing her a$$ on IM (if that is possible)when my internet went out.
She has surgery today so I sent her a note saying I would be praying for her.
I have to get my head screwed on straight.
Thanks for bumping to my next string.
mcol Me: 34 Deployed W:32 (EA started Oct 07) S:8 D:3 S:18 mos ILYBNILWY-12/14/07 Request for backdated separation 12/14/07 Top areas to work: 1) Communication 2) Repairing me, focusing on me