We have been communicating on and off since May, 2007. Because wife's boyfriend and his wife live about 350 miles away, I have never seen boyfriend or his wife in person. My communication with her is restricted to online IM and email. I have never spoken to her.
Results? Mixed. I allowed her to get "too close" to me, and she developed an attraction to me (yep, from only online correspondence). Regardless... if you have a specific question, feel free to ask, or send an email to: <<more polka at yahoo.com>>
As I have posted recently, Mrs. Shrek is closely tracking her husband. She reported to me that, while I out of town visiting (and flying with) her father, my wife met with Shrek, and when she visited, she was with the boys. Turns out #2 asked, "Who was that guy you were talking to?"
This is foreign territory for me. Not sure just how angry I should be.
This brings up another issue. Mrs. Shrek told me that, as soon as wife learned that I was going out of town, she made a call, and Shrek was in the Shrekmobile, headed to town to visit. So should I abandon my #1 GAL activity (flying lessons) in order to keep Shrek out of town (he will not visit here if I am in town)?
My W has found it appropriate to introduce the ffom to the kids, as "her friend".
S7 buys this. S16 didn't. After I found this out along with the fact that W and ffom went on a double date with her sister and husband, I snapped. I sat S16 down and made sure he knew what was going on. I made sure he knew not to be lying to protect me (which he did once). I made sure he knew who the guy was and what they were doing was wrong. I didn't talk down about W, but I told him the truth.
I was probably wrong, but what did I have to lose???
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
What my wife did was wrong. What you wife did was reprehensible.
However, in telling the 16-year-old, you did the right thing. I think you and I are on the same page here. Do the right thing. And teach the kids to do so as well. Sometimes, we break the DB rules in doing so.
There was no introduction in my case. Shrek would not risk it.
My boys will be told the truth. I will give her the option of telling them herself, or I will tell them.
I owe it to them. As Theoden would say, "How else will they learn?"
This brings up another issue. Mrs. Shrek told me that, as soon as wife learned that I was going out of town, she made a call, and Shrek was in the Shrekmobile, headed to town to visit. So should I abandon my #1 GAL activity (flying lessons) in order to keep Shrek out of town (he will not visit here if I am in town)?
Absolutely not! The sad fact is, nothing you do is going to keep them from seeing each other, if that's what they intend to do.
Your #1 GAL activity is - to use your own words - the Right Thing for you to be doing. Do it!
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
I have decided that, the next time I leave town, I will say to my wife, "Although I don't want you to see him, there is nothing I can do to stop you from doing so. However, I don't want the kids seeing him, and I don't want him seeing the kids. Fair enough?"
Of course, she will deny that the relationship is still alive, etc... blah, blah, blah, blah....
