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If it's referencing death, it could be he is trying to tell you that his old self is dying or that he feels like he's dying inside, etc.

The one I received, "The Stand" referenced standing still and his head was moving all around. Yeah, right, the old boy's head was moving all around. It's was moving around so much that the marbles fell out.

Just remember, they do tend to use songs and other types of things for communication.


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A different perspective...although I am not entirely sorry H left (since I did feel a sense of relief), I would be thrilled if he actually sent me some song lyrics.

He is still trying to reach you. He has not given up on you. For all his talk he has kept you nearby.

I think you could be nicer to him if you were able to get some space from him...can you take a vacation or stay with a friend periodically?


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H has guard duty this weekend so he'll be gone 3 days. The kids will be gone, so it'll be me, dog and cat. Ah, such is the life of the LBS. . .

Do any of you ever just desperately want romance? Isn't that a stupid thing to be thinking in the middle of all this mess? I want to be wooed (?).

It's a cloudy day here today and work is a bit slow. I'm sort of sleepy. In a weird mood.

I should be glad he'll be gone, and I am glad the alien will be, but I'm lonely for the mate.

Hope the sun is shining where all you are.

Love and Hugs,
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Sun - the sun isn't shining, and everyone should be grateful that I am not singing and dancing in the rain.

Romance - what is that?

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Romance is nice, but what I crave is a good friendship w/a man that can carry on a "sane" conversation.


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Snodderly - I second that. It is my h's friendship that I miss the most.

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Yes, a friendship would be wonderful. I guess I'm missing the romance this weekend because everyone I know seems to be going to a wedding, out to romantic dinners, weekends away, etc. And here I am this weekend with the dog and cat. . .

But, oh I do miss my best friend most of all.


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Oh, and after it storming like crazy last night . . .

The sun is shining!!


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Sometimes it's nice to just have your pets around. Take this weekend and do something different, i.e., go to a movie, take in a museum or some type of book review, etc. Just don't stay indoors too long. You need to be out and about and enjoying the world.

I know what you mean about romance, i.e., weddings, dinners, etc. But you know what? That will come again for you. It all just takes time.

Enjoy your peace and quiet.


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Hi Snodderly,

I just got back from a 3 mile walk with Buffy and it was lovely. It is about 40 degrees but we worked up a sweat.

I rented "Georgia Rule" and made pasta last night after doing some much needed cleaning. It was a nice evening. I like my own company, actually.

I'm not sure what I'm going to do with the rest of my weekend alone, but it's beautiful here, going to be in the 60's and sunny, and I'm not minding being alone as much as I thought.

I had to talk to H last night about a couple of financial issues when he called and it actually didn't go badly. He has always freaked about money matters so I've always had to handle them myself. Now he sees that as my having all the control all these years. I offered for us to start sitting down once a week and going over things so he knows where we stand and maybe keeping a calendar together and putting everything due down where he can see it at a glance and I won't get blindsided by things he comes up at the last minute with that need to be paid.

Maybe if we can come to some kind of comfortable plan for sharing our financial duties he will back off some.

I had a call from D18 Wednesday night that she needed money for books Thursday because her money wouldn't be released until the 23rd. It came to almost $400. (which I thought was not that bad for 5 classes), but when I told H Thursday evening he started cussing under his breath and got really mad and left for a run and wouldn't talk to me.

That's why I initiated the conversation last night. He said it was just always something and that we were always having things come along like that. He didn't apologize (and I hate that and need to just get over it) for his reaction.

Anyway, I don't want all the responsibility for paying the bills when he thinks he can go spend money carelessly and then I have to find a way through it all. Maybe this will help. I hope.

Have a wonderful weekend!

Sun


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