I know you are hurting but this is a big letter basically telling her over and over again what a failure she is. Don't do it this way. She will react defensively and withdraw further. If she gave you a list like this how would you react? You may think you would react by saying "Ok, now finally there is something to work on." and roll up your sleeves and get to work. I doubt that is what would really happen though.

Last edited by Baltoman; 01/09/08 01:18 AM.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark.
Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.