Starting to get it.... my 3rd thread

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No, Ann it was I that didn't understand fully so forgive me and I see your point about him crossing boundaries and not getting it. You are trying to break the cycle of hurt in an effective way and it seems like H may now be trying too but lacks the skills so you have to train him to tune in to your feelings - easier said than done. In my own case I knew I wasn't in touch with W's feelings but I also know that she didn't communicate in a way that would help her cause. Anyway step 2 is still about how to ask for what you want and maybe you can substitute "love" with "assertiveness" in your situation. Anyway you seem to be making steady progress.