When BF says that a woman needs to tend her own fences... to a woman that means that his loyalty to her is in question, and her own loyalty fades... she'll knock her own fence down. If a woman is loyal to her man... she doesn't even NEED a fence... she will have no desire whatsoever to wander anywhere... unless the safety of her child is in question.
So a loyal woman doesn't need a fence, except that she does because he demonstrates his loyalty by putting one up and she doubts his loyalty and loses hers if it isn't there?
Of course if I move the fence or add barbed wire just to make her feel secure, that's placating. It's my fence, and I can't put her in charge of it.
Also, would you say that the maternal instinct has always driven a woman to mother her offspring as long as she can get away with, and it's just now becoming a problem for much the same reason that obesity is just now becoming a problem (i.e., we eat too much because we can, and our ancestors didn't because they couldn't, and moms baby their adult offspring and their so-called "adolescent" offspring because they can and previous generations of moms couldn't afford to)?
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
