Why does the maternal instinct make you dishonest (I'd use the term "undependable" instead, but I think we're on the same page)?
Because it trumps any intent, in word or deed, I may make to another. Not out of maliciousness, but because... that's just the way it is. I don't think I have a definitive answer on this one; we're going to have to ask the Big JC when we all get to heaven. But I can tell you, even the most hard core scientists don't mess with this one. Darwin covered it in one short sentence. Due to the maternal instinct, the female will _______ (FIB).
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The only thing I can come up with is that your complete and utter commitment to your offspring, whether they exist or not, makes you realize at some level that everything else is relatively unimportant.
I wouldn't say unimportant. I think it is the very indication of just how important it actually is to a female... now whether females will own that or not, is something else. The feminist theory completely unravels under the weight of it, and they know it.
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Honor and dependability are no big deal...you *know* you're a good person because you know in your bones that you'll completely sacrifice yourself for your offspring.
Uhm... I think so. Awareness of this is often what separates the girls from the women... and I can tell you... when a girl runs headlong into this part of herself, it can be a quite confusing and painful time for her. Hormones/instinct often confound rational thought. <-- boy that was like the understatement of the year... but why we look down upon that, why we expect women to 'handle' it, stuff it... hold it in so that men/boys don't have to see it/deal with it... is BEYOND me. My son says to me all the time... "Mom, you're acting like a Mom." Yes. That is what I am.
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Why are married women dependable? If a regular single woman is dependable, does that mean she's actually into you?
I would say in both instances, you have effectively cultivated her loyalty... in the former, the contract has been made and she is secure in your loyalty (though she will test is constantly to make sure it is secure and in place). In the latter, she is waiting... testing... making up her mind... seeing what else is there that will strengthen the bond...
For male and female 'friends,' loyalty still needs to be present for the woman... probably not so much for the man. When men and women remain 'friends,' something is present that will not allow the R to develop further, and both are usually very aware of whatever that is... 'friends with benefits,' are a man and a woman both aware that no R is forthcoming, and the boundaries are usually clear and acceptable to both.
