In Support of Strong Puppy

[MJontheMend]

She eventually let me know that I could quit telling her I wasn't ready for a full blown R, that she got it and that the repetition was annoying. I should also explain that she never blamed me or said anything was unfair. She was incredibly cool and was almost The Perfect Woman. If she'd thrown a fit at the end I'd have written her off as crazy and that would have been the end of the cleanup. Instead she just said, "I practically love you, you big goof," and explained how we weren't going to be able to be friends.

That said, your point that women are responsible for their own emotions is correct. That's the area wherein lay the SLBs that I mentioned earlier I need to handle. Eventually.

Well, I can't decide if I respect her for being honest or I think she should have behaved in a manner less likely to make you feel guilty. She shouldn't have allowed herself to become emotionally involved given the situation and you shouldn't have allowed yourself to feel guilty given the situation. One way to think about it is that a woman is never going to become strong bunny if there is some guy out there to rescue her every time she vibes weak bunny. OTOH, every woman is going to vibe weak bunny on occasion so it would be a sign of respect if you could empathize without rescuing. I think if you were able to do that it would alleviate your guilt.

As Corri rather alluded to, the first action appeals to women who want a relationship. The second appeals to women who don't want a relationship (i.e. is counterproductive to their continued not wanting of a relationship).

So it's like one of those puzzles involving people in one village who only tell the truth and people in another village who only lie. I'm too mush-brained at the moment to figure out the answer but I'm sure it's out there.

Heh. That's shooting fish in a barrel. If you need any help with steps 2 and 3, I can put you in touch with an expert.

Actually, I think it's much more difficult to do if self-aware than any kind of Rogue Reformation plan because I have to maintain my desire in the face of many obstacles until I reach success in Step 3. I hope you are joking about me needing help. I 've been turning nice guys into rogue wolves since the early 1980s. I just didn't know that was what I was doing and therefore I suffered due to ignorance. Poor little monkey Mojo (sniff).

Otherwise, you're leaving the guy with half a wolf.

I had this exact thought but then I remembered that I usually make it pretty clear to a man just exactly what is turning me on when I'm in strong monkey mode. The guy won't exit the relationship clueless about that. He will only be clueless about what turned him off and caused him to exit. Like he'll see me in the grocery store a month later and he'll be scratching his head and having muddled thoughts along the lines of "Hot. Nice. Me no like??"

art of me liked it when women were wonderfully mysterious and I just needed to wait until one saw what a great guy I am and blessed me with her company. Finding out a guy can do what works is rather like finding out there's no Santa Claus. Living in reality beats living in fantasy but it's more fun to think of your presents being delivered by an enormous elf in a red suit with flying reindeer than it is to realize your parents bought that stuff at Best Buy. ;\)

LOL- That's almost exactly how I felt when I became more objective about objectification and empathetic to "f*ck and run" etc. I haven't quite got it worked out yet myself (obviously) but I think it probably has something to do with being childlike rather than childish and enjoying being the grownup who dresses up as Santa on occasion.