SD you are right , W is still riding her own roller coaster and is emotionaly all over the place. I realy dont feel like I have the energy to do too much other than to carry on with my life and try and let her affect me as little as possible. Donna , I did sit with her and offer her a coffee but she chose not to interact with me so I just carried on with my day. Acting "as if " is natural to me now.
Following on from this I went away for a couple of days and W looked after Kids and house. When I got back she was in a better mood and had even done some yard work! . She did not stay long though after I got home. Yesterday I invited her over for dinner with me and the Kids and she did seem to enjoy this , dressed sexy too which can be tough to ignore , perhaps I was not supposed to ignore this but shes going to have to do better than that.LOL. I told her about a woman at the supermarket who was trying to hit on me and then W gets a little flirty. Read into that what you like , I have some ideas but am staying on course . Good news is W is taking better care of herself , is excercising and eating properly so has gained a touch of weight and is looking much healthier.
I have a bit of a theory as to what is happening.
Firstly there is no doubt that W lost attraction for me during our M and this was some years back. This led to where she met OM and was ready to leave our M.
Since then being separated and OM have perhaps lost some of that early romantic appeal.
In that time I have worked on eliminating my " attraction killing " behaviour and paid some attention to her LL's.
I have also been reading about " alpha males " and stuff from making her happy dot com. Now I am trying to interact with her as a woman who I do not know but am trying to attract. If that makes sense.
For her this is probably very confusing as she remembers the Old CK and now has this new CK . This slows the process up but I think its starting to have some results.
Its a long process but she is way more responsive to me than some other WAW's here.
I see that the only way this will work out is that her attraction for me is high enough for her to want me and our life together more than any OM or life on her own. Then she may be prepared to do whats required to build a healthy long term R.
My job then would be to maintain that level of attraction.
All easier said than done but its the only way forward that I see and even then may be a game that I dont want to win.
