New -Devestated and Feeling Hopeless

[fooled again]

theo,

Flourish. You are woman of beauty and deep passion. Let her come out to play.

You are amazing! I can't believe that you are a DBer, that some crazy woman left you. She's nuts. Any man talked to me like that, I'd melt.

Anyway, Ellis, theo says it so elegantly, this time is now for you. And going dark and giving yourself the space to reinvent yourself w/out the distraction of trying to be what your H wants is what you need most right now.

IMHO, your H will NEVER know how your D really feels (unless he puts in some major effort soon), and that, purely and simply, is b/c she does not trust him enough to let her true feelings show. Yes, he will be "fun daddy", buy her presents, take her places, but she "lets it all out" with you b/c you are her anchor, she feels safe in your unconditional love, and she knows that no matter what she does or how she feels, you will always be there for her. My D once told me, after some prodding, that the reason she won't tell daddy how she feels is b/c she's afraid he won't love her anymore. Imagine! I told her this was not true (it isn't), but her perception is to just be happy w/ daddy & enjoy the time she has b/c she doesn't know when it will stop.

You will make new friends and expand your world. Your new job will give you so much confidence in yourself and remind you of all the things you have to offer the world. Have fun.

FA