Living in MLC Misery Part 2

[KPK]

A little journalling and some questions.

I have to admit I've not been very good at DBing for the last 2 weeks, essentially since the e-mails to OW were found and H started to formulate his plan to leave. I know he said he was going to leave, but him coming up with the specifics is really killing me. I was doing pretty well until those e-mails. I've been pretty down, no GAL, no PMO. I've been trying, but it's hard, especially since he's now decided he'll wait for his bonus in March to put a deposit down, find a place in a town nearby to live, and has asked for the budget to start analyzing bills to see how much we can each afford to pay. All of this planning on his part means R talks and moving talks are coming up regularly as he asks questions, and it's making things so hard. He's still in the spare room. He's very intent on moving forward with this. It's like waiting for the other shoe to drop.

So, how would you all act at this point? I know I have to get back to GAL, but it makes me so sad to have to talk about this moving, budget, bills thing all the time. He's saying he'll always support us, and pay his portion of the bills and make sure we can always stay in the house. Should I get this all in a formal separation agreement?

Thanks.
Kelly