Never agree to mediation with a lawyer who already advised your W.
Help me understand why should I not do this. The attorney I spoke to suggested that this is indeed an option for me. He told me that I would be OK if I hammered out an agreement with her attorney, then bring it to him, and pay him to review it. Then take his suggestions back to her lawyer, and go back and forth that way. It would be much cheaper than a battle royale.