**************************************************** The old problem is that H distance is very painful, the new stressor is that I'm headed to gyn because of what could be a std. H vows with all he's got that he has been faithful. He is very convincing. Hope I'm not being an idiot. *****************************************************
H is probably hurt that you automatically figured std and blamed him. I know it would hurt me.
Hopefully you've figured out what the real stressor was and found a way to releive it. My W has gained some weight over the past year as well as taken up an old habit (smoking). The weight is not really a big deal, but the smoking is a serious turn off. I ususally get around it, but sometimes it gets to me.
Not sure what I am trying to say other than it may be worth a shot to appologize for the accusation and consider the possibility that your H may have a slight issue with the weight gain. Maybe not, but then again, it could be a solution.
I know I sure wish my W would quit the smoking. I don't talk about it anymore, but it sure would be nice.
I'm sure there is more going on then you have posted. For me, it's the creeping "more of the same" type behaviour that trys to creep back in me and W. It's a constant effort to keep things even keeled. Not always, but most the time.
