Agree DH, my W even said something like "people break up all the time, can't you just accept it?" As if we'd only been on 3 dates or something. It'd be nice if more people cared about marriage...it's not necessary to get married, so when you do it should mean something.
Anyway, Atlas, sorry about this, but it seems like a good thing as well. Sounds like you really have your head on straight as far as what you want in life, and if W isn't going to fit into that then maybe it's for the best. She also isn't exactly making the choice difficult with the way she's been acting (though I'm sure it must be at least a little hard).
Me: 43 W: 41 Together 2009, Married 2011 Sons 10 and 6, Daughter 5 Bomb 2/21/21. W moved out 10/2021