H hates all "talks" and immediately balks at them. I think that the problem is they lack context. If I "talk" to him about biblical R's he will just go into his shame/denial/hiding thing. However, if i do as people have suggested and give him a context - a kiss deflected, an initiation turned down, crap sex - then I might get somewhere with the rest. Our R is very cold right now. Thus, no context. It would be like confronting my next door neighbor about why he wasn't meeting my sexual needs. I could give him all the logic about why he should or could but he would say, "Huh? We don't have that sort of relationship."
