I have to find my way out of my lack of passion and what that may mean is finding the passion in me for my M and not so much counting on having passion for H.
uhmmm...no...I don't see that working. It's too detached. Passion for the M? I think you need to stick with finding passion for H.
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My passion for H has hit really hard times and I guess that is also part of what caused the "if he won't I won't" stand off and what has also made it difficult for me to take charge of my own desires. So, I think maybe my "joke" of the other night about finding an LSU alumnae (AS IF) to hook up with represents part of where I need to go from here. I need to lighten things up, create motion in this R, insert some warmth and then........if H doesn't play along it really is on him and not me and I can address it - straight up, in vivo instead of in a two page summary of the past 8 months.
Well, I like this part better. I was totally in the same boat. Didn't have any passion for H and he certainly didn't seem to have any for me. The joking around has certainly helped us. Of course, all that came after yet another "bomb" in our M. So I don't know how you really get him to embrace the sexual charge in the M until you lay all that cards on the table. And not in a clean orderly way either. Doubt that would ever work with men who love self-control. kwim?
