The Great Wall Part II

[Dom R]

So, I think maybe my "joke" of the other night about finding an LSU alumnae (AS IF) to hook up with represents part of where I need to go from here. I need to lighten things up, create motion in this R, insert some warmth

sigh..... As much as you know your husband better than anyone else in most areas... I think you still just dont understand him in this area, Karen.
this wont work. he has plenty of "warmth". he's had it for the past ..... years. If you dont change anything else, then how is it logical to expect he will change, if you do exactly the same thing you've tried before?

If you dont want to go the anger route first, then how about trying the biblical route first?
It's probably what's going to work best for you anyway, if you stick at it for a little bit, and dont just let it go at the excuse he's going to come up with in the first 30 seconds.

So, I think maybe my "joke" of the other night about finding an LSU alumnae (AS IF)...

That's not what the DB books mean, when they talk about "act as if". The books are talking about "act as if [your spouse is going to do something positive for you]", not "invent anything imaginary that you feel like, and act as if it will be true".