In Support of Strong Puppy

[Burgbud]

(Mojo) If you straight-up told the girl you weren't interested in a LTR (or even if you used some sort of easily translatable male code) then it's her bad no matter what animal stew you brought to the table.

She eventually let me know that I could quit telling her I wasn't ready for a full blown R, that she got it and that the repetition was annoying. I should also explain that she never blamed me or said anything was unfair. She was incredibly cool and was almost The Perfect Woman. If she'd thrown a fit at the end I'd have written her off as crazy and that would have been the end of the cleanup. Instead she just said, "I practically love you, you big goof," and explained how we weren't going to be able to be friends.

That said, your point that women are responsible for their own emotions is correct. That's the area wherein lay the SLBs that I mentioned earlier I need to handle. Eventually.

For instance, don't wave goodbye all misty eyed at the door or ask her to call to tell you she got home safe if you aren't in relationship mode. That kind of stuff confuses us if we have our own oxytocin buzz to deal with - lol. Keep it more jolly like smack her on the *ss as she leaves and say "Stay cute." or something like that but less lame.

As Corri rather alluded to, the first action appeals to women who want a relationship. The second appeals to women who don't want a relationship (i.e. is counterproductive to their continued not wanting of a relationship).

I call it my Rogue Creation plan.

Heh. That's shooting fish in a barrel. If you need any help with steps 2 and 3, I can put you in touch with an expert.

Doing that probably would improve the world but make sure you give the guy a copy of NMMNG as a delightful parting gift. Otherwise, you're leaving the guy with half a wolf. You could think of him as a Nice Guy with a pet wolf. A pet wolf is good to have but he's still a Nice Guy, and being a Nice Guy with half a wolf sucks. A dude needs a whole wolf who knows how to enlist the St. Bernard to keep the puppy's nose far away from any grownup monkey business.


(Corri) ...it's just your general lack of regard for the female gender that seeps through most of your posts that makes me shake my head.

Most guys, and all Nice Guys, respect women waaay too much. If blackfoot was posting on a fast seduction forum I suspect his tone would be much different.

There's also something about "doing what works"....hmmm. My thoughts on this haven't coalesced but I lived a couple of examples of "doing what works" in December and it put me in a bit of a funk over the holidays. Part of me liked it when women were wonderfully mysterious and I just needed to wait until one saw what a great guy I am and blessed me with her company. Finding out a guy can do what works is rather like finding out there's no Santa Claus. Living in reality beats living in fantasy but it's more fun to think of your presents being delivered by an enormous elf in a red suit with flying reindeer than it is to realize your parents bought that stuff at Best Buy.