Were you always this good about DB'ing. It feels like it's taking me a lot longer to "get it". To actually make the changes and do something. I am so stuck in missing him and wanting him home that I find it hard to move forward.
Heck no! I didn't even know about dbing until about 6 months into our separation divorce. Before that I was pathetic. I begged, pleaded, cried, and told him I would change over and over. Nothing made it better. Honestly, he is the one with all of the issues anyways. After about 6 months I started to make myself get out more and do things with others. I even semi dated someone. He flipped out. But even though I was doing these things, he and I would still get together ever week or so. So I really wasn't doing super good.
When I got pregnant we talked about R. I bought it hook, line and sinker. He just wanted to go slow. That was back in July. I had my suspicions about OW for a few months be he always said there was nothing. Finally I had enough in November. Realized he was a cake eater.
What I am doing now may not be working into R, but it beats being that needy clingy person that he doesn't want for sure. He may never come back, but I am standing on my own two feet.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
