Living together as semi-polite strangers

[mishka422]

My thread locked.

Angelica - I will definitely not suggest counseling then for him. What about asking if he will go to MC with me? I feel so out of sorts and have no idea what to do to try to break this tension. He has a few moments where he is talking candidly and just being him and cutting up and then just as quickly slips back into the sullen, sad, shell of a man he has become. I can't watch it! It's making me sick! I'm trying not to hover but some of the things that came out from him in his meltdown that he didn't like from me was that I was always in the living room watching football (he's not a sports fan at all) or watching something else and he's in the bedroom watching what he wants because he doesn't like the same shows. Excuse me? I'm not just sitting there watching TV. I'm always multi-tasking. The TV is on more for noise and company than it is for actually watching. I'm doing laundry, cleaning, cutting coupons, helping S13 with homework (which is getting over my head now! Scary how much you forget when you don't use it, huh?), etc. etc. He's the one just laying in the bed watching TV. He only watches one or two things (Cops or Comedy Central...that's it!). He used to like a wide variety of things and we would enjoy them together and discuss them. He stopped doing that. He doesn't have any outside interests anymore besides fishing and that he can't do right now. He says I need to spend more time with him......DOING WHAT????? He doesn't ever want to do anything yet he complains about me not doing anything with him. AARRGGGHHH!!!!!!! I make suggestions and he shoots them down.

Ok, back to my question. Do I continue with not ever calling him except regarding S13, texting to say hey like we used to, etc.? What is the protocol when he says he has moved back in to "give us a chance". I don't really think that's the reason, I think it's more out of guilt for leaving S13 and that's it. What do I do?????

HELP!