So H came home to our house last night after being at a hotel the night before. He came in after his dr. appt (around 5:45 pm), put away the stuff he bought at the pharmacy, started playing with the kids like a normal night. Things were going well, I just stayed upbeat and kept all conversation light and NO talk about R. We had a small crisis which usually ruins our evening when we have one. H got under sink for a garbage bag and found the sink leaking underneath. Got mad, asked me how long it had been going on why didn't I tell him, etc. I just kept calm, said I didn't know it had happened that it had been fine a few hours before when I got something from under the sink. So he actually calmed down and fixed the leak instead of getting super angry and combative. Way new for him not to escalate small problems. We played with the kids all night, with he, I, and S playing Tranformers game after D went to bed. I put S to bed and came out to find husband asleep on couch. I asked him if he was staying or going back to the hotel so I could go to bed (I sleep in Ds room when he is home, in our room when he is gone). He said he was staying at the house. So I went to bed, said goodnight, left it at that, no questioning. This morning I noticed his shaving kit, etc. was in our bathroom so I know he isn't packed to go anywhere tonight. Called him at work as I am filling out day care forms for our D to go in when I start back at work in 2 weeks--when husband moves to apartment. I asked him if he wanted our address under his name on the form, or his apartment address. He said our address. I said okay, and got off the phone while we were still upbeat. Should I just keep playing it cool, doing the 180, GAL, etc? I talked last night about how excited I was to be going back to work (at first I complained about it bc the only reason I am going back to work is so we can afford 2 places to live)and how much our son is looking forward to full-time preschool. Seemed to go over much better than the old, worried, depressed me! Anyway the only wrinkle is tonight is his bowling league night. He hasnt been for 4 weeks with the holidays and work travel. The OW from his PA is on the league with him and other co-workers, he only ended the A 11 days ago so don't know how it will be for him to spend the evening with her (and the other coworkers). He used to stay out late after bowling to be with her & said he was getting beers with "the team". There are 7 more weeks of bowling league before the season ends..although I noticed he left his bowling shirt in the closet. Don't know if that means he decided not to go tonight, or just forgot the shirt...Wish me luck not calling him tonight or asking him what he was up to if/when he comes home!
