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My very lack of passion scares the crap out of me. I am more afraid of that than my anger. My anger that looks to this forum like a hissy is so difficult for me that having a hissy probably represents better mental health than my usual stoic approach (Me? No, I'm not angry just disappointed. I'll get over it. It will be ok. I can handle anything.). So, I don't know where I am going from here because what this whole thread has pointed out to me is that blasting away from the position I am in would be unfair and not even remotely useful.

I'd be real careful where you go with this line of thinking. My H used to be very similar in thought. And we know what happened in my M. H finally blew a gasket and left. You are ripe for that if you don't address these issues head on. And trust me when I tell you I was 100% convinced H had every intention of staying in the M, just like you do.
It sounds to me like you are talking yourself out of really showing your H your passion and your anger. Big Mistake.
Just my two cents.

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