You know, I can sort of see why your W would be upset and take what was probably just a cheap shot about an OW at you.
It was not a cheap shot. She thinks I am cheating on her. She even had dates and locations for my vacation with my girlfriend (Shrek's wife).
Originally Posted By: saffie
She probably feels you are invading her support network and starting to do things behind her back.
The word "probably" is not needed. It's absolutely the case.
Originally Posted By: saffie
Several people on these boards have commented on the LACK of communication between you and your W and that effective communication is very important. Perhaps at the moment your children would benefit more from you and your W spending money on how to communicate effectively rather than on therapists for them. Seems to me you will be paying someone to clear up the mess created by your W's and your lack of communication skills, but at the same time are not learning how to stop creating more mess.
I completely agree. I am looking for a counselor for all four of us.
Originally Posted By: saffie
I say this not as a criticism but just as an observation. Nobody is a mind reader and effective communication is critical in minimising damge - even if it is communication that leads to D. The better the communication the easier it will be for ALL concerned.
Saffie, I agree with you. And I appreciate you taking the time to help me.
