you say you are confused about her not willing to discuss the therapist for the kids. I guess I missed where you had the discussion about the therapist...sounds like she walked in and you were already on the phone with one, no discussion at all, just here she is, wanna meet her?
mark, here's a different way to look at it. maybe she is mad that you didn't talk to her about it first? I would think looking for an ic for the kids would be something you would do together, you know? seems to me you took the reins without talking to her about it. even if she didn't want to be part of the process and thinks therapy for them is a waste of time, I think it would have been a good thing to have given her that chance to say no first.
I guess what I would do is sit down and have a talk with her about that. about the woman you found...no accusations, just wanting to do the best thing for the kids. if you are going to meet with this ic in person before the boys do, invite her along.
just a thought.
Well, Sally gets the gold star. This is exactly why she was mad. She told me so this morning. Now, on the one hand, I had one initial discussion with one therapist. Nothing more, and I see nothing at all wrong with that. On the other hand, I should have discussed it with her first. I can see how both ways are OK. Regardless, I told her I was sorry that I spoke to the therapist, and I will talk to her first the next time. She seemed OK with this (though frustrated that it happened).
Oh, and the therapist told me that she can't do anything until after we tell the boys we are getting a divorce. If we take them, they will stare at her and ask, "Uh... why am I here?" So we can't move on it now anyway.
