cagman, I haven,t posted to you before and apart from your signature line I know little of your situation but I have read some of your posts and today I can feel your pain so just wanted to post you a hug. Seven years on I can only say it gets easier. You can go days,weeks even months without the tears and "wonderings". I have no quick solutions for getting a life. I just carried on and slowly found a pattern to the days that didn,t include thoughts of my x intruding upon them. My children have been my salvation. Make goals for you and look atractive for you. Find your own self worth-hard when you have ben married a long time. I took up yoga and it helped me in many ways.
Yu are very new to all of this in the great scheme of things so be kind to yourself and be patient. I think on some level we will always care. We just have to learn that this was not about us and nothing we do will alter what has happened(imo)so fake it til you make it and one thing I know is that we all do make it one way or another. Try to count your blessings I found that helped to.
