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W has surgery tomorrow for an internal issue and has sent a red cross message requesting my presence.


I would say it's great news that your W wants you home and took the time to send a Red Cross message in an attempt to get you here. Right?

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this will just be another way for her to look at my career and how it has hurt our marriage.


Again, your career may be what she's saying is hurting your M. But really, it's her A that's hurting your M.

Hang in there. ;\)