Karen, Thank you for checking in on me. As LFL puts it, H and I have achieved a steady state, where we keep a regular sex life and check in with each other. It may not be wildly passionate, but it is really, really nice. If a few days go by without us ML, he most definitely will address it, and I feel comfortable bringing stuff up to him. Most of the time now I am relatively LD, but every now and then an HD wave comes through! He is back to himself in so many ways, just really a nice guy, no more affair jerkiness and guilt. We've learned the hard way that we want to be together, and the sex, somehow, isn't such a big deal anymore.
I still think the way to deal with these fused situations on this board is by being repeatedly asssertive and directive, just to get things moving along....maybe a cushioned baseball bat?
