Well until she can tear down her wall she won't be able to heal herself. I can't do it for her and any efforts I make don't help. Yes that's a core belief in DBing and one that's hard to accept, especially if you are a Mr. Fix-it type or a husband who's been accused of not taking on enough responsibility. I'm ready to do that but sadly she's not willing to accept that.
You right, you'd think getting over the just the "meeting emotional needs" barrier would be a hell of a lot easier than overcoming that plus infidelity, abuse and such. But Michele mentions in her books that in some cases the smaller or more easily solved problems are the hardest to overcome and some people just cannot ever do it. Hopefully our wives don't fall into that camp.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
