Question about OW

[elocin777]

Monkeybug,
That's the million dollar question? When is it time to throw in the towel? I guess only you can decide that. I don't think I have really even gone through the anger stage yet and my H left in 9/07. I get angry but it doesn't last and I go back to falling apart. I have continued to do the same things you did up until a couple of days ago and believe me keeping my mouth shut has been the hardest thing to do yet. But all along my C and my H were telling me I am just pushing him farther away. But in my head I couldn't understand that because I just wanted to work on our marriage. But all those things we say to them about the kids, the OW, and this point they don't want to hear it. It is all the responsibilty they don't want to know about. I don't really get it still but I am not ready to throw in the towel yet. I still love my H and remain true to my vows. My kids are suffering, grades have dropped, and they have become unmotivated about anything, so I am willing to try anything because I believe marriage should be forever unless there is an abusive situation. But then again there is emotional abuse too, so I don't know I guess it depends what is in your heart. Everyone story is different yet the same. It is so hard--but I agree with Ellis if you want to save your marriage then don't make threats about OW and don't keep nagging him about it because you will just push him further into her arms.