I know that it would be a bad thing for her to jump the fence, but I also know that if she did, I'd still want her. While not directly addressing the subject of where my boundaries aren't, I have mentioned the following points about where my boundaries are:
1. Don't push me away. Don't keep me in the dark. 2. I will be having sex regularly. Preferably with you. I'll be glad to forsake all others as long as it doesn't usually mean forsaking you as well. Otherwise, you're free to leave, or stay, or join in as you wish.
I think that is sort of our thinking too. The boundaries are/were a little muddled, but for some reason we can work with that and actually thrive it seems. So I'm not going to argue what works. As for wanting your W back if she jumped the fence, I think lots of guys feel that way but some men will never admit it. Jabs at the male ego I guess. And that's fine. But I don't want a man that is all about his ego anyways. I want a man who will love me and who I can love. It's as simple as that. If for some reason the sex with H starts to downslide, I will keep your second point in mind. I just want to be able to speak to him honestly and NOT feel the urge to go outside the M. Because I know myself too well. I could easily fall in love with that person and I think that is where H might say "game over." Who could blame him. The goal : loving each other, would be shot to he!! at that point. But that brings up another interesting point about R's. Can you truly be in love with two people at one time? Is that possible? Just thinking and writing again. I'd have a hard time doing that. I have heard people say that has happened to them. hmmm
Ok, off off to the gym. I'm really going today. lol
