Piecing - H still contacts OW

[Heartbroken]

Hello OC,

I really feel for you and are stumped as to what solutions to offer. I totally get the pain you feel - I too am not good at acting - I wear my heart on my sleeve. It's a fine line to be true to yourself without pushing him further away. He needs to be able to see the situation/his actions from your point of view and he is still not there 100% to be able to do this.

After 16 mos I can honestly say my H has finally opened his eyes up to what his EX OW is really like. But she went off the deep end - guilted him to no end that she left her H for him and now he will not be there for her blah, blah, blah... She tried blackmailing him into staying with her - nice start of a R hey???!!!

The point is he went back to her BS THREE times after he told me he was done...she continues to try and suck him back in and until the WAS are clear in there head they will continue to be sucked back in. You are right to have your fears b/c your H's OW sounds just as treacherous (sp) - but until your H makes up his mind that is how it will be - he can only stop it. It is out of your control - you can only take care of you. Somehow he needs to put himself in your shoes....

Take it slow and watch for the small positives - they are there. Reflect on where you were a year ago and go from there!

I am thinking of you!!

HB