I'm still wearing the boot, but the doc told me I can walk on it as much as I want to (which isn't going to be a whole lot at first). I walked into Olive Garden with the walker, but by the time I got home, I walked into the house. I'll still use the wheelchair at home when I have the boot off, because he doesn't want me walking on a bare foot.
Then in two weeks, he said I can put a regular shoe on and go to rehab. Shoe shopping-- oh boy! For flats. I'm sure there are some cute ones out there somewhere.
What an adventure. It's nine weeks ago today that I broke it.
Bf is staying at his cabin again tonight-- that's three nights in a row. He hasn't even been to town in the last three days. He loves it out here. I always knew it. It just goes to show that when he found something he wanted to do, mom was not a consideration. Thinking of the times when he couldn't do this or that with me because of mom.
He invited me over for din-din again tonight. Nice. We sat outside. Doggies running off into the darkness barking every 15 seconds or so. LOTS of interesting smells out there, I'm sure.
Then I came home. So simple.
I told my friend at lunch today about me and bf kind of moving apart, and he was sad until I told him how it really needed to happen, etc. Then he said, "So you're on the open market now, huh?" I said, "Well, I guess so, although I'm not really looking for anything in the very near future." He said, "That's okay. I don't know anyone at the moment who would be worthy of you." Nice to hear that sort of thing.
Hi Lil, Some more practical advice: Forget the cute flats right now. Look for a walking shoe/sneaker with support and cushion. The flats are way too flimsy.
Get yourself some of those cute slip on tennis shoe style things for working out that are flat and slip on but have some style. People wear them for yoga and such. Try http://www.lucy.com - they have the best workout gear, I just love them. They go with casual clothes. And when you are ready for flats - maybe try http://www.aerosoles.com - comfy but stylish shoes.
I really think you are on your way to a much more tenable situation. I keep finding that women don't really get what they are about until they are at least 35 and it takes most of us until our 40's or 50's to insist on it.
"That's okay. I don't know anyone at the moment who would be worthy of you."
Yeah. What HE said.
Great use of double entendre in the post title, by the way. I had a wonderful talk with my DD6 last night about double entendres. We were reading a book about a kid with a magic crayon and, at the end of the book there is a line about how he made his bed and drew up the covers. She laughed about "drew" and I realized that she didn't understand that the word, in that context, also meant "to pull up". I saw the lightbulb go on in her head. I asked her about him "making" his bed and, after some thought, she realized that it meant both that he "made" it out of nothing by drawing it with his crayon, and that he "made" his bed just like she has to make her bed every morning. So fun to open a kids eyes like that.
Anyway...enough about me. Have you had a talk with your BF about this, or did you go the route of just letting it all change? Oh, and are you harboring any expectations that him seeing you with other men will cause him to pursue? Just wondering.
Hd, I don't plan on having The Talk. If and when I decide I want to "date" someone, I'll cross that bridge when I get to it. Serious discussions between us deteriorate quickly into sarcasm (on his part) and tears (on my part). I just don't want to Go There. Does that make me a wussy, hairdog? Or just smart? Your opinion matters to me.
Oh, and are you harboring any expectations that him seeing you with other men will cause him to pursue? Just wondering.
Sorry, I didn't address this. No. I'm not interested in being treated rudely anymore. I truly have no more desire for him. This is why I can't understand y'all who still want someone for YEARS who had been so cold and mean to you.
If I started dating someone else, I really don't know what effect that might or might not have on him. He might or might not be jealous, but he would likely hide it if he were. You'd think I'd know after all these years, but plenty about him continues to surprise me.
BF is a good guy. He cares for me. He would do most anything for me. I'm tired of trying to break through the hard shell. We are friends but can never be lovers.
Does that make me a wussy, hairdog? Or just smart?
"No" to #1 and "too soon to tell" to #2. As for my opinion mattering to you, the feeling is mutual.
I'm glad that you're not doing this with the expectation of "gettin' a rise" out of BF. If you got one, I'd think you were being manipulative, and if you didn't, you'd be disappointed. What happens, happens.
BTW, I had a walking cast once. I broke my foot when I was 13, playing a game of "tag" in the neighborhood. Yes, I was chasing a girl. No, I didn't catch her. Proof that the whole pursuit thing was painful even back then.
I've been walking in my walking boot since Monday, and I'm doing fine. My ankle is a bit swollen at the end of the day, but the doc said that is okay. Did that happen with you, Journey? A couple of people have told me that my ankle may swell like that for the rest of my life?!?
I'm talking to bf on the phone occasionally, but we're not making any effort to get together. The other day I went to his house to take a bath (he has a great old fashioned bath tub)-- my first total immersion since the fall, and I'm a big fan of soaking in the tub. I was a bit concerned about the swollen ankle, so after I got out of the tub, and was wrapped in a towel, I asked him to come in the bathroom and look at my ankle. He opened the door and came in, said that it did indeed look swollen and I probably should come out and lie on the sofa a while and elevate it by propping it up on the arm of the sofa. Then he went out and closed the door. So. There ya go.
I put on a long nightgown and did lie on the sofa while we chatted for a while... now that the boy-girl vibe is out of the picture, we're getting along GREAT! I'd say we are totally differentiated at this point. I'm liking it a lot.
Okay. Here's what I need from the BB. Monday I start my 8:00 am class (it's MWF). It's a 40 minute drive from my house to the school, and then I must allow time to park and time to get to the classroom. I'll probably have to go in the wheelchair for a while, because it is a very long walk. I'm thinking I need to leave my house by 7:00 am at the very latest.
I'll be waking up at what my bf's daughter calls "the butt crack of dawn." What I need are tips for early rising, to make it tolerable, efficient, manageable. I usually don't even open my eyes until 8:30 am, even on "work" days. There are probably plenty of you who have to get up early or LIKE getting up early, so please share suggestions, wisdom, advice, encouragement, etc.
P.S. My friend and client whom I see almost every day said I'm looking much happier and more at peace. She said she can see it in my face.
ETA:
hairdog, your sig line reminds me of the great line that Nicholas Cage has in "Moonstruck," where he says to Cher, "Love ruins EVERYTHING!"
As far as getting up early, most important is that you feel motivated to do it for your class!!
Besides that, trying to use some natural light first thing in the morning to help you wake up. I've been trying to use a light source for SAD and I like using it as soon as I can in the morning.
Good Luck!!!!!!
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
I'm sure there are some cute ones out there somewhere.