My W showed major concern for the kids just before Christmas, first time since this crisis began. Also showed guilt to the extent of tears. I believe its a major breakthrough for her and evidence that she is progressing through, but not out of, this crisis. Early on if the children complained to her she responded,"you are a child, those are decisions for adults".
Once my counselor who knows her well told me, "it's going to be alright, she has a conscience". I never asked him to expound on his comment, but can only believe conscience can be a motivating factor to do the right thing and find theirway back home. Mine was very close and protective of her children before the breakdown.
Lets hope our W's maternal instincts will prevail over the alien.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.
