Your so right - I had 20 yrs with my H and I just turned 40 and its so easy for him - he found somone while he was with me! and now hes living with her. And I am really struggling to GAL. I think the same thing I dont have the energy to to start over again. When we met I was 20 and when your 20 love just happens you dont think like we do now. When and if I start dating someday I think how difficult that is going to be. Everybody I meet I will be think so deeply - is this a good man for my 6 yr old D and is this someone I want to be with for years now that I am 40. WHen I was 20 you dont think that way - your out to have fun and then it just happens - now its a whole different ball game and I just do not want to play. Maybe that will change in time. I am not an example of detaching. My story is a mess and I am just beginning to Gal and try to detach but I found myself googling my Hs name to see if he comes up on any dating web sites even though he is livng with OW. Yes it is a journey through hell
