I've been separated for 3 months now. At first any contact we had was really strained and H was very defensive. About a month ago I realised I just had to accept that he has chosen to leave me and I can chose to accept it even though I dont like it. Since then whenever we've had contact its been really nice and normal - like old friends catching up. I think that it's mostly because I'm OK and he picks up and reflects on that. The hard part is that it makes me miss him more.... I guess when all the relationship tension is gone all that is left is the friendship we have / had?
Thanks for your advice - I know that in the future I have to steer well clear of any divorce / relationship subjects. I actually dont know how much contact we are going to have. At the moment I cant think of any reason he would NEED to contact me for the next few months. I'm setting a goal of 30 days no contact initiated by me starting yesterday. Not sure what I will do at the end of 30 days - maybe a few prank calls (just kidding!)
We moved countries a little over a year ago, and the friends that we had made were all couples. Its really hard starting over again and meeting new people in a city where you dont have a big base of old friends. I've signed up to be a volunteer at the Children's hospital (thinking it will be the perfect place to meet a handsome doctor! Ha Ha!) Any other suggestions for meeting new people?
