Sounds like you did very well in the conversations. I think she will go to the counseling.
It wouldn't hurt for her to get the meds though. so often the problem isn't really love here or there, but depression. The new love is a way to self-medicate with a dose of happiness.
As for talking about the books and the website, I think most people would advise keeping your source of support secret. But you handle things well, so I think you can decide for yourself
