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[Lanzo]

Met W and treated her to lunch today. When I met her a month ago at a cafe she refused to let me pay for her cookie so this is a change.

Good we can see small changes in her.

She was on topic and not hostile for the most part. I validated most of what she said but disagreed with her on just a few non-sensitive points. She attacked me directly at least once by condemning the Xmas present(s) I bought D11

Don't worry about the attack, she finding less significant things to have a go about. Tip, anytime she attacks you on a particular item, make a mental note, then correct it so it doesn't come up again. Oh, I also had the attack about xmas presents so I know where your coming from.

She commented on my sweater saying I could not have bought it someone must have given it to me - which was true since I hated shopping for clothes - but the point is she took notice I was well dressed.

This is good, dress well, smell Well at all meetings with W.

I noticed she still had on her wedding and engagement rings.

Don't read too much into this, my W has never taken hers off, even when she was with OM.

She started to touch on legal and financial matters I just nodded and said a few ya's and OK's and left early saying I had to get back to work (too sensitive for now ;). I asked if she would meet same time next week and she agreed...

All good especially you leaving early cos you've got other things to do.

I have this urge to "talk" to people - esp. neighbors and school teachers especially when they say they "heard", are "very sorry", went thru' it themselves, offer free advice, etc. I trust if I say anything its got to be very positive and not anti-W. Anyone want to comment on how to conduct myself in this respect?

Whatever you say bits of it will get back to W so your best approach is to keep your comments to these people short and light. Definitely no bad mouthing. Something like " Yes it's troubled times for W and I but we're doing our best to work things out amicably. Either way, D or R we will both be fine". Don't say you're fighting like mad to save things cos W won't want to hear that yet.

Dude, sounds like you're doing fine at the moment.