To Lovely Olive Tonight....

[Yoyowife]

LO,
Sorry to hijack your thread again, but you have made me think about reactions to adultery. I see it has been thought provoking to others on here as well.

Another misconception I had was if a spouse cheated, then the wounded party should be upset more with the spouse than the OP because the spouse had the commitment to the the LBS. I also thought the LBS would be crazy to stay with the WAS.

Wow, how my views changed! I realize that both parties shared an equal part in the affair, but I still want to hate the OW because of the love that I shared with my H. Of course I didn't kick him to the curb either or I wouldn't be DBing. I'm sure though, that several of my friends that have never experienced infidelity, are wondering why I am fighting for a marriage in which I was so wounded. They just don't see the big picture of love, marriage, and family like we do. Yes, they are very family oriented people, but like I said before, they haven't experienced infidelity, thank goodness... At the end of the day they all get to go home to their intact families.

I have come to the realization though that I'm going to be okay however this ends up...That is an important lesson to take away from DBing. Remember GAL!