I've sensed this too. Although I try not to talk to them much about what is going on, they know that this is their mothers doing. W also shoots them down when ever they try to talk to her about their feeling and desires related to this where as I tell them that you never know what the futre hold and that they should always talk about what is bothering them. W is clueless to the long term damage caused by her actions but I suppose it goes with the territory.
M35 W37 S9 D6 M12 yrs Know 15 yrs Bomb 1/28/07 My Sitch Failure is the opportunity to start again more intelligently - Henry Ford