question about text messaging

[Michael Mc C]

but why access the records? Your signature seems to show that you already know a hell of a lot. What good do you think will come of seeing the evidence?

I'm just asking. I have complete access to my wife's computer from any other computer in the house and most of our biggest fights have stemmed from my 'snooping'. Funny enough, the snooping hasn't gotten me anywhere.

I used to take the log file every night. I can't remembe the last time I copied it over. It serves no purpose. Our spouses will do what they are doing regardless of what we know.

I know how it is to need to know. To feel that you are catching them at something. But that will NOT solve anything.

I read a log a while back where my wife told a friend that she has a friend setting her up with a hot divorced guy, with kids, who has his act together. It drove me nuts. The truth is, she is going nowhere. Don't torture yourself with the information you're looking for.

Instead, accept what you already know (it's in the signature). Work on you. Your first step HAS to be focused on you and you alone.

This is my opinion. I know some have been successful in showing evidence and turning things around but that is a VERY rare occurrence.